A great book!

I finished reading Anthony Robbins’ book Awaken the Giant Within for the third time.  It’s over 500 pages of great insights.  Of those many things I had the good fortune of having something I read yesterday play out for me.

Tony points out that at times we get caught up in doing the urgent things over the “important things”.  Ever have that experience where you got a lot done in a day but still felt oddly frustrated at the end of the day?  I’ve experienced that a lot.  Tony points out that its because those activities may have been urgent, necessary but lacked “long term importance” or meaningfulness to us.

Today I put Tony’s words to the test, again.   I took care of some of the urgent items on my “to do list” but also made sure that I took plenty of time for something that I felt was meaningful in the long run, something that allowed me to make a potentially significant and creative contribution to a group of people.  TONY IS RIGHT!   I loved it!   I have that wonderful feeling of having lived a meaningful and fulfilling day!

You can find this topic in Tony’s book at Chapter 24:  “Master Your Time and Your Life” (page 477).

Facing Problems Head On

Facing a big problem head on can be pretty tough.   It seems easier to avoid it, at least for awhile.   Can you think of ways we avoid problems, either consciously or unconsciously?  Here is what I have come up with:

Denial:  You would think that if it is big it is not easy to deny.  Well, I think my mind has done a pretty good job at times in not accepting something as a problem.

Minimizing it:  OK so we admit we have a problem but hey, “no big deal”.    This is a cousin to denial.

Under react:  We take action but in a half hearted fashion and with steps that will not completely solve the problem.

In all three of these cases, in my experience, the problem festers.  If anything it gets bigger and hurts more.

I had to make a choice today.  I had a problem that has been festering for awhile.  I think I may have employed all three tactics above until finally, today, I said enough is enough.

Finally, I chose to be honest with myself.  Festering does increase pain little by little.  The only question is when we will reach the point that we decide to face it.

I think I was fifteen years old when I first read Dale Carnegie’s book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.   See Chapter 4.  I have read it many times since.  He put a lot of good ideas into how to deal with problems in that book.

In management, in sales, in coaching everywhere I have found one of his simple formulas to work quite nicely….when I get to the point that I am ready to face the problem head on.

  1. “Get the facts”. Define the Problem.  How could we possibly solve a problem unless we can accurately articulate what that problem is.
  2. “Analyze the facts”. Consider possible solutions.   There are often a number of solutions to a problem.  Think them all through.  This requires some effort, some time and a quiet place perhaps to ponder how things might play out.
  3. “Arrive at a decision”.  Pick the best solution.  Trust yourself.  Again, if we have integrity and are looking out for the interests of all concerned, for those problems that affect others, it will probably work out.
  4. Put that solution into action.  At this point just move forward.  Procrastination is a step backward.  We need to watch out that delay does not nullify the thought and effort we put into solving the problem.

Facing a problem head on as you can tell started when we chose to look at it almost objectively, from outside ourselves.  I think to some degree we have to put some emotion aside perhaps, especially if that emotion is fear of facing the problem.  This might sometimes take courage.  Don’t discard emotion though.  It is who we are but don’t let anything negative rule the day.

Dale Carnegie listed three basic steps.  The third included taking action.  The only thing I might add to these four points is first to decide, no matter what, with courage, to face the problem head on.  And frankly if it takes some wisdom from above to solve those problems, especially those that seem “unsolvable”, then do it with full purpose of heart.

 

Jason Hewlett-Wow is an understatement!

I have been strongly influenced by the best motivational speakers our world has to offer over the last 30 years. I have also laughed and admired the talents of the greatest comedians. Never have I seen a speaker combine the talents of the motivator with the talents of the comedian like Jason Hewlett does. He may be from another galaxy!   

with Mr. Jason Hewlett
with Mr. Jason Hewlett

 

Tonight there were just a few of us gathered to join residents of a humble half-way house of people looking to change their lives.  He promised to give us his absolute best and he more than fulfilled that promise. I have seen him speak in front of hundreds of people.  Now get this! Jason gave as much in that small living room as he gives on the big stages! He brought me to the point of tears with laughter and then, with inspiration.  No wonder he was the National Speaker’s Association Keynote speaker for the 2016 convention. If you need a keynote speaker for a corporate or community event, it will be an absolute life-changing hit with Jason.  As far as I am concerned, he is the best in the world of motivational speakers today!

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