I would like to introduce you to someone that could change your life from this day forward. In their eyes you might see the confident look of a person who has paid the price to get where they are, a person that looked at where they were and then into the future at where they wanted to be, what they wanted to do, what they wanted to have. And they got it! That person is you.
Let me give you a personal example of what I mean. When I was a young teen just starting high school my father would take me to varsity football games. It fostered a dream in my heart. One day I wanted to be one of those guys. In fact I wanted to be one of the best of them. But I was thin, slow and not very strong. Fortunately there came into my life a man that could introduce me to the Jeff that I had to become and how that gap would be bridged. He was a neighbor named Jack. Jack had been an NCAA All-American football player drafted by the Pittsburgh Steelers. He told me I could become good at football and even gain a college scholarship. He taught me to grow, to plan and to have passion for my dream. He taught me to focus and to work toward it. He taught me to persist no matter what. Through his efforts I could see what manner of man I needed to become. Through the three years that followed I became swift, strong and skilled. A dream became reality. I became one of the best in our area and gained scholarships for the achievement thanks to Jack.
We all want to become something. Have you caught a glimpse of the person you would like to become? Skilled, confident and able to share your talents as well as any of those you look up to? We all deal with lack of experience, doubt, fear, nagging voices in our heads that tell us, “no not you, that will never happen for you, you can’t do that”. None the less here we are. We choose to move forward. How do we bridge the gap between who we are and who we will become?
- We grow. How?
We have a purpose. Our desire to be, our ‘why’ behind the work. As a boy the feeling I got when I focused on my dream drove me. I had a vision and my ‘why’ was my family and friends being proud that I had succeeded.
We also have passion for our purpose. We love what we are doing even when sometimes it is hard. JK Rowling had a purpose in writing the Harry Potter novels. With that a passion. She loved her stories. I too loved practicing football. Now I love sharing my message with others.
Also to grow, we develop a plan to do so. A plan to cover the days, months and years all progressing toward our end goal.
2. We act!
In acting we work, we practice, we perform. The key is focused effort. Harry Potter didn’t happen overnight. It took a lot of writing and rewriting. Michael Jordan, Tom Brady or any other person you want to name had to focus, practice and work on their craft.
3. We persist.
High School Football was only a beginners training ground for reaching goals. The real challenge came at age 17 when I decided I want to be a salesman. I was a shy, self-conscious introvert. As a matter of fact around my high school they called me stone face because I was so quite I was even afraid to smile. At 17, while still in high school I stepped into my first sales position. I quickly learned that I had to do more than just show up, I had to grow up.
It took me years to succeed but following the formula in the acronym I just gave you, grow, act and persist, GAP I eventually bridged that GAP between who I was and who I wanted to become. This time, rather than Jack, my mentors were the greats of motivational speaking, Zig Ziglar, Tom Hopkins, Anthony Robbins and many others. But the ‘P’ in GAP is perhaps the hardest thing because failing is part of leaning and growing. He who doesn’t persist doesn’t succeed.
‘G’ Grow in it with purpose, passion and follow your plan. ‘A’ Act by working at it with focused effort and ‘P’ persist. If you do you will get a little bit closer to your goals and the person you were meant to become.
Say hello to who you can become!
I had the opportunity during the last week of June to visit Beijing China to provide training to a small group.
The training sessions were vibrant and full of discussion and growth. We discussed everything from sales tactics to service and processes.
It was my first time to China. I loved it! What a vibrant city! I went not knowing what to expect but I would have to say t that I expected less technology and industry than I found. Highways, cars, buildings, everything as modern as home. The subways were packed with people, young and old, actively communicating via their mobile devices. Some things have no boundaries.
Thanks to my hosts!
Last week I had the honor and privilege of doing a podcast with Dr. Paul Jenkins, Mountain West Chapter National Speaker’s Association President . I am now part of what he calls his “human collection” of other guests. You can find him on Live On Purpose Radio: http://liveonpurposeradio.com/.
I also read his book Pathological Positivity three times! I highly recommend it!
Life is a total challenge in battling the positive and negative influences in life. We talked about what he teaches as well of some of my experiences with those concepts. I am reminded of a speech I gave recently. Here’s the digest version:
“What is it you want, Mary? You want the moon? Just say the word and I’ll throw a lasso around it and pull it down. ”
Have you ever seen “It’s a Wonderful Life”?
Lasso the moon is a metaphor for dream big. George Bailey, the main character was a positive dreamer.
I like to dream big. Do you? Don’t we all aspire to do meaningful things? To leave our mark in the world? Is it building skyscrapers like George Bailey, writing a book, building a business and career?
Have you ever had anyone ask you “what makes you think you can do that?” Have you noticed that in life we struggle with the negative and the positive? The “cans” and the “cannots”. When you are a dreamer you have to protect it from negative influences that will sap it, steal it and kill it.
Sometimes those influences come from other people. Sometimes they come from the whispering angel on our right shoulder with messages of “you can, you are a child of God”! And sometimes it’s the shouting little devil on the other shoulder with, well let’s just say, the opposite message.
Voices are choices. Which ones are really looking out for you? The one that says live your life to the fullest or the one that says “hide, stop, be afraid, you can’t”?
Don’t hide. Don’t stop. Dreaming without action is just day dreaming and negative voices can stop action if we let them. Dreaming with action is power, its force, its imagination, its determination, its will power. And it is momentum, the best tactic for fending off those negative influences. So get out your lasso and capture the moon.
Remember voices are choices!
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